The Work

Somewhere along the way, in our most impressionable stages, we learn how to be acceptable. It’s not for nothing, by any means! We learn how to walk, how to talk, and how to present ourselves and our personas within complex social systems. We find our place within family, culture and community. We learn how to fit in.

Finding our way in the world and operating according to familiar patterns is important. Our families, our cultures and our communities require cohesion and shared values. Community is where we belong!

Our patterns of behavior become problematic, however, if we are repeatedly making choices that do not allow for enough flexibility, growth, or change. Sometimes we’ve had to learn how to fit into emotionally unhealthy or dysfunctional environments. What was normal growing up might have included dynamics that left us feeling uncomfortable, internally conflicted, or too alone. What was normal in our early relationships might have also included dynamics that were disruptive, painful, or disregarding of something that needed attention, nurturing or care.

In therapy, we learn how to reflect on old patterns and move ourselves into the beckoning, enlivening moment. We can learn to recognize patterns that are functional and healthy and others that might be detrimental to our overall well-being. Sometimes “normal” patterns from childhood might, in adulthood, keep creativity, joy, or healthy relationships at bay.

Meaningful Relationships

As we walk through change, it is important to do so in ways that respect who we are. As humans, we are social and interdependent. We rely on each other and thrive on the continuity of caring bonds.

In therapy, the most positive changes we make are relational. We learn how to find and receive relational care. We learn how to be in relationships in ways that feel connected and whole. We learn how to shift our relational patterns to allow for a greater capacity to be supported and loved.

Thank You

Thank you for being here. I look forward to hearing about what you seek in your own life.